My Story

[togaman1304]

OK..here goes...Ima teenage guy whose about to be 16, i've had Rosacea ever since, and also sebhorric dermatitis, (to be clear that's the one where it makes your head itch and causes dandruff or dandruff looking flakes?) anyways I just made an account here to say my story and feel like i'm not the only one out there. But the main reason i'm writing this is to express my pain I've had in relationships and trying to meet women and talking to them. I've been a whopping 0-8 in my life when asking a girl out, whether it be a date, movies, relationships, etc..etc...for you that might think that number might seem low, its only low because i've only went for women who I thought wouldn't judge me by my face...of course I was wrong..and my face turns to this uncomfortale smile and the dreaded words..."sorry ***** your a really sweet guy and really nice, and awesome, but i'm just busy this weekend, or im not interested"...Story of my life. Then I wonder to myself why dare ask or be in love if nobody is willing to look past me as just a friend, Unlike most people that I read who has Rosacea, i'm not really shy in most social places, such as school, you could even consider me the class clown, but when it comes to trying to impress a woman, one-on-one, face-to-face I don't stand a chance because i get crippled with shyness and thoughts that the girl is thinking "umm why is this red freak talking to me?" This thing sucks!!! The worst part is that all those women pursued are now my friends and we talk and laugh on a daily basis, but the thing that ticks me off is that when they say,.. "oh your such a great guy, your a sweetheart" I wonder "then why didn't you give me a chance"? and then I see there boyfriend who i'm usually good friends with and i see a guy with muscles, and of course...A PERFECT FACE!! So i pretty much get the picture on why I didn't get that chance. The worst part is that the lights in my high school really irritate my face and by the time i get home i cringe to get myself to the mirror and see how i look, because i already know the result.. . So whatever I usually try to clear my head with basketball...but oh thats right..its out in the sun! Scratch that off..HMMM maybe I should work out and build some mucscles?...oohh thats right exceicse makes me look like a tomato! Anyways all i'm asking is that if you stayed this long to finish it, can you please give me some words of encouragement so I can hang in there? Or a tip about women, or something! I feel totally useless when it's the weekend and all my friends are out at the movies with their girls..and what am i doing? thats right, nothing . Only bright side is that i believe i'm going to start taking Oracea soon.

[YisMEred]

Yeah. I can definitely relate I have both seb derm and rosacea as well. Seb derm is everywhere lol scalp brows lashes....rosacea affects my eyes....who knows i dont know what is what anymore but i totally understand what you are going through. It does have a tendency to affect your social life... You look around see how everyone else is living their lives, experiencing it to the fullest while your stuck to yourself and to your thoughts. I know its hard and I certainly feel being hit with these conditions at a younger age than what is "typical" makes it all the more difficult. You were a few years younger than I was so I could only imagine how difficult it must be. Though I certainly was in the very same boat as you, and well to be honest in many ways I still am. But believe me things overall will get better and you just have to hang in there and think positive no matter what. I know its hard as people tend to focus on the negative, especially when we tend to find so many things wrong in our lives but you have to focus on the good. Always tell yourself positive things and try not to focus so much on what you perceive to be your biggest shortcomings in life. They will only affect you as much as you let it. You will still struggle from time to time, but that is life as everyone struggles, not just people with our set of circumstances. Remain strong and positive and people will want to be around you, and there is still plenty that we can do. Things were once worse for me and now i find myself doing things I once could not, as long as the right measures are taken to protect yourself of course. Sure, some things are unavoidable and you may flare after having some fun, but the way I see it its sometimes worth the flare. Don't let it control you and your life. Try to get creative with doing things and your true friends will support you and aid you in doing so. If they are not understanding, then make new friends that will, and as you get older people do tend to become more understanding of things. That of course goes for relationships as well. I met my girlfriend when I had these issues and believe me there are understanding people out there. Shes beautiful and has no such issues so don't think you have to find some1 that can relate. I used to think that way but then I realized all I had done was limit myself because of this. You can't let it limit your life in anyway. Just own it, deal with it as best as you can and just choose to be happy because at the end of the day that is your choice. Always remain positive and stay strong.

[V70r]

I got rosacea at a young age also(22). Mine was at it worst when I was younger. But from the age of 26-36 my rosacea was almost non existent. Then I went thru a devorce at 36 and it came back strong. I believe rosacea is brought on by stress to our body's. Emotional,physical,immune, and even food stress(digestive). Stress comes in many packages. I know that a red face can be extremely stressful!!! But you need to try and releave stress from your life anyway possible. I use light exercise and working to keep stress at bay. And sleep is another big one. Without sleep our body's can do some strange things. Stress will change our skin!!!!! I would watch your diet. Cut out as much sugar and starchy carbs as you can(try to relieve stress on your digestive system). And one mire thing. You mentioned that the lights in your school bother your face(fluorescent light bother many people). Put on sun block every day and even at night. It will help you with the light. Hang in there

[dave75]

hang in there...look into oracea with your dermatologist if you haven't yet. it changed my life..i can live a relatively normal existence with that now plus a diet low in carbs

[togaman1304]

hang in there...look into oracea with your dermatologist if you haven't yet. it changed my life..i can live a relatively normal existence with that now plus a diet low in carbs

Thanks you so much for all your care and support