If you read through this entire thread, I will be extremely suprised if it doesn't help you in some way or another.
This thread may not go down well on this forum but it needs to be said. I'm starting to post more regularly here now because some of the posts I read are actually depressing. I wish I could meet some of the people who post so I could really try to help them. I have been through hell and back pretty much my whole life and I'm glad. I learned a lot about myself in recent years. I am a much stronger person now because of my problems.
Everybody Has Problems
That girl with the amazing body and perfect face that's walking past you. Yep, she has problems.
That guy who drives a jaguar to work and is always smiling. Yep, he has problems.
That popular mean girl in school who always acts like a bitch. Yep, she has problems.
That professional sports player who gets multi-million dollar contracts to do what he loves. Yep, you guessed it, he has problems.
My opinion in this context is that there are two types of people in this world. There are weak people and there are strong people.
The weak people in this world are the ones who let those problems control their life and the path they take.
The strong people are the ones who accept that their problems were destined to happen and this is who they are.
You can live your life.
You can sit there everyday until 20 years from now you imagine what would have happened if you lived your life.
There will be times in your life where you regret doing things, but more often than not, it will be the thing you didn't do that you'll regret the most.
You Have Control, No-One Else
Personally, I would never look at a girl with a red/dry/oily face and think:
"WOW, I would never want anything to do with her romantically because she has bad skin".
I would however, look at a girl who stares at the ground, constantly is worrying and never meets me in a public place and think:
"WOW, that girl is depressing and strange and I would never want anything to do with her romantically."
Which guy do you think a girl is going to prefer?
a) A guy with bad skin walks down the street looks really nervous, shy, depressed.
b) A guy with bad skin walks down the street with confidence, energy and looks like a lot of fun to talk to.
Your boss fires you.
a) OMG I lost my job. How will I pay my bills. You feel bad.
b) That job wasn't right me. Now maybe I can pursue something that I really like. You feel great.
A girl in a bar tells you to 'get lost'.
a) Wow. I must really be unattractive to women. You feel bad.
b) She clearly isn't a nice person or she's having a bad day. Maybe she's just sick of guys approaching her. I'm so glad I found that out now rather than a few months down the line when I might actually have feelings for her. You feel great.
You Are So Focused On What You Don't Have, That You Forget About What You Do Have
I used to wake up and think 'How bad is my skin going to be today?' And the majority of the rest of my day would revolve around my skin.
The reality is, If I can't do anything about my skin, I should be doing everything I can to make other areas of my life better.
1) Go to the gym and make sure you have a great body.
2) Get regular haircuts.
3) Dress nicely and take pride in yourself.
ETC ETC ETC ETC ETC ETC
Why I didn't wake up and think any of these things?:
"I'm really tall, I should be grateful"
"My hair is really nice, thank god for good genes"
"I have a really great family around me, I should appreciate them while I can"
"I have a really fit body"
"I'm interesting and intelligent. I'm lucky to have such a good education"
"Thank god there's food on the table"
"Thank god I have this skin condition and not my siblings because I'd rather go through this than watch them suffer with it"
After watching this three part video, think about why you don't wake up in the morning and tell yourself what's written underneath the links:
"Thank god I can walk".